There is actually a big debate on a topic for the last few weeks which has made it into the financial times and other major outlets. The bringing coffee to an interview debate.
Oddly enough I was thinking about something similar last year based on my own experience. Funny how it came up.
Early in my career I was assigned to a specialized supervisor for a few weeks. I asked around about her and everyone told me to be careful. How bad can she be I thought.
I wish I could say what she was. In Academia everyone's hand is attached to a coffee cup. Quite normal to be walking around with it.
Day one with Ms. Rude. Had to meet her in her office to discuss my observation. In between buildings I grabbed my Starbucks. A treat to make it through the day and not inexpensive. I sip and savor. We were talking and I sat down my cup on her office table. "It could spill" she said. I apologized and sat it next to my chair on the floor. "No it could spill". She bends down and places the almost full cup in the waste paper basket. "We are going to put it right here". I clenched my teeth and said nothing. (Holy sh...t I'm not a child what's wrong with you?).
We discussed my observations and on my way out I grabbed my lidded cup out of the basket (she'd placed it upright in an empty basket). "No. You won't need it leave it here".
Older me would have opened my mouth. She gave me a bad evaluation no matter how much I groveled anyway.
Petty little things were criticized by her. There was nothing I could do right. She slandered my colleagues. I respected the hierarchy. Fawned submitted stayed polite. Yes ma'am. When I mentioned this to an administrator I was told that yes ms. Rude targets the youngest with the silliest things behaviors like my coffee that had nothing to do with performance.
I was a keen idealistic rookie mature for my age but coffee really? It was a power play. A god complex. I was to walk around and worship her.
There's a name for that now. She was abusive.
Lesson learned. Sometimes I still wish I had said something to this educator who thought she needed to ensure we were created in her image.
Decades later and that mindset still exists
Recently a recruiter for corporate employment instructed on TikTok that job interviewees shouldn't bring their coffee to an interview, they won't be hired.
I've never brought a coffee cup to an interview primarily because between parking and building I don't necessarily pass a coffee place. If I'm rushed don't want to jog with a takeout cup. Always have a water bottle on me though.
My initial reaction was wouldn't want to work for anyone who is that uptight. I interview them as much as they interview me.
The backlash from successful people was fantastic. Anything from "this isnt the 50s" to "are you hiring humans?" And countless complaints about corporate mindsets were you're expected to have the physical needs of a robot. In all fairness, even robots need to charge.
In a sense it's good that people are discussing this now. That things have improved but these are young people just starting out. No reason to mistreat them.


