For today: Gaming Grandma

 

I thought of writing about female scientists but realized there is little interest from others, even women. Video games have changed considerably. One of them is Skyrim. An open world game that parallels life in a fantasy medieval setting.

How one plays it is up to the individual, but one can find various objects to eg. buy a house and furnish it. Horses can be bought, stolen or found in the wild. If a player decides to steal items, they lose their reputation and become part of the dark brotherhood.

For teens it's a great way to learn to save for items just like life. Something that players do is walk throughs (on youtube), teaching others how to play or find items.

The gaming community is a kind one. When Curry revealed her age (she started in her 70s), she received nothing but support from everyone. She plays the game her way and became so famous that gaming grandma was featured in a documentary.

She's sharp as a tack and gaming is great for hand eye coordination, decision making and reflexes.

A true inspiration. This is how I want to be when I grow up.

Here's the 20 minute documentary:

https://youtube.com/watch?v=pxoXrc8pwx0

Shirley Curry:" What am I going to do? I don't like to knit"

Gastronomy shrinkflation

Sustainable, healthy and
environmentally friendly

 Most people are mislead to believe that restaurants operate one step above bankruptcy. In the case of chains not even close they're under incredible pressure from private equity companies to increase profit margins annually.

Many who were struggling a little because the quality went down prior to, made a lot more during covid. Overhead was down, less staff, basically a kitchen and staff that got the items packed for delivery.

I'm not talking about food court junk fast food or fast food, but mid range restaurants.

Red lobster is one example. I have a special place in my heart for them. In my university town we had a good one. On Tuesdays it was all you can eat. Everything on the menu. It was fresh, the waiter came regularly and I stayed away from anything deep fried or their dessert.

When a film student friend took me the first time it sounded too good to be true. I also felt like a cheapskate. We were about to gorge ourselves in our sweatshirts and jeans. Well. Red lobster treated us like regular customers not students on a tight budget. Not only that, but when the waiter recommended the chocolate cake with vanilla ice cream, I declined "I can't move. I'm about to roll out of here". 

He laughed. Then said skip the Minestrone next time. It's a filler. To this day I remember the sizzling garlic shrimp; fresh garlic and herbs. I knew a student that worked there; they were treated really well and everything was spotless.

In the early 2000s private equities started to buy up franchises, department stores and red lobster. They made a deal with one Thai seafood distributor which was too expensive. Then sold it for real estate, convinced the public that they were losing billions on the all you can eat, (they didnt) declared bankruptcy, tried to get a bailout for it and due to public support, red lobster bought back its company and brought back the all you can eat promo. Internet is still wrong about it.

As I discovered myself the first time. There's only so much one can eat in one sitting. At least I never could. I'm giving my student days as an example. Unless it was a birthday restaurants (that we actually liked) were not within our budgets. Red lobster never lost money.

You could not take what you couldn't finish home

You were only brought one item at a time

Instead of not going at all. I basically paid for the main, and received several appetizers and (had I chosen it) dessert for free.

Red Lobster uses good ingredients. They had mass purchasing power, sourced from several big sea food companies to the point that they could dictate the price due to its very high bulk volume. They also buy a variety of lobster species that are good but not the high end expensive ones.

Tuesdays is so slow for the restaurant business that they make money on those days with all you can eat.

Why am I mentioning it now? Because the food prices for big chains haven't gone up that much, but greed and disdain for the customer have. Unless people complain about items removed from menus (management not waiters) or companies replacing ingredients at will, the customer is no longer king but a joke.

Communication, Women and Science Fiction

 I was younger than most when I entered university. Through friends of my parents I ended up in an apartment with a flatmate named Mina. Mina was a few years older, studious like myself. Smart and quiet. She was like a big sister. Kind, encouraging, gentle yet assertive. She had (she still does) a bubbly reverse laughter that made me laugh even when the joke wasn't funny.

We were young idealists; we were going to save the world, people and the environment. Mina had gotten into a competitive program so we rarely saw eachother. Both of us spent time in the library, and we were very considerate of eachothers space. Every weekend she went home to be with her boyfriend, a physician in training.

Startrek was in syndication and was my dinner study break every evening. Mina didn't think much of scifi and couldn't understand why I watched it. One evening our disciplined lifestyles overlapped and she joined me on the couch while we were munching our salads.

 I explained that each species was not a representation of "race", but an extrapolated and stereotypical extreme of human personality and behavior; the Ferengi greedy businessmen, whose intentions could not even be read by an empath, the Klingons; the proud warrior race, the Vulcans who were logical and suppressed emotions, the Borg a totalitarian hivemind and so on. The show explored many ethical and moral themes including Data's struggle to be recognized as a person. Mina was passionate about women's and human rights. 

When i told her that the first Startrek was a product of the 60s, where Kirk "engaged" with animal, mineral or vegetable with some papermache aliens thrown in, and that TNG had changed the famous slogan: "To boldly go where no man has gone before" to "To boldly go where no one has gone before" as early as 1987, in order to be more inclusive, Mina became interested. Mina wasn't hooked per se, but she joined me frequently afterwards to watch and discuss.

Ionescu's play The bald soprano about the failure of communication did not resonate as much as TNGs episode Darmok. (The episode is free on youtube). An alien species whose brains have evolved to only speak in metaphors. AIs LLM feels that way. Our own communication is more anti-social. Even on these blogs I've witnessed adults imitate juvenile behavior and resort to bullying. The othering of anyone who is perceived as other.

Maybe Startrek should be mandatory viewing at an early age.

To this day when I encounter situations that are crazy because people aren't listening and talking at eachother rather than to eachother followed by the insincere "I hear you", there is hopefully a geek nearby who understands my "at Tenagra".

There's been recent talk about aliens again. I don't need a Drake equation to convince me that there's sentient life in the universe other than ourselves. However it has likely evolved so differently. that I doubt we'd have anything in common. We might not be able to perceive eachothers form of communication. (Take that egocentric Fermi paradox). There is probably nothing that we could trade. "We're a Foufna based lifeform and ecosystem, wth are we going to do with your coal, oil, plants or water???" 

Gary Larson

Darmok and Jalad at Tenagra. 

Sokath, his eyes open.

Update: Google AI gives a decent summary of the meaning of these sentences. Basically the first is about cooperation, the second about understanding.

Women, sports and science

I don't like any type of polarization that becomes extreme, turns to hate and ends up in pitchfork mentalities.

That being said, the last decade has been concerning to say the least on both sides. The nuances are gone. Watching and reading women unable to differentiate between the men who harm and those who do the opposite.

I am avoiding key words so readers will have to infer what I'm writing about.

Spouse is involved with the rights of women and what I can share is what she gives me permission to. One of the things spouse is particularly angry about is that the movement isn't getting anywhere. Women who rise emulate male behavior instead of insisting to be allowed the choice of how feminine and nurturing they want to remain. (Greer recently mentioned something similar). In the Stem sector the women who make it receive little help or mentorship from the women who made it before them.

A perfect example was Serenas win while preggers. Feminist called her "badass". Of course it was an incredible feat, but feminists had no regard or understanding that such extreme exertion might be dangerous. They had already moved on when Serena almost lost her child and her life as a result.

The recent win of Alysa liu also went a little unnoticed, but gives me hope for the future. As she disclosed in the 60 minute interview; at the ripe old age of 16 she quits, goes to college, comes back on her own terms; no more radar gun for speed by her traditional father, no more dieting and she manages her practice. Her father accepted. A healthy looking athlete wins.

My training as a Varsity athlete was mixed gender (we only split at competition). A very  progressive great coach addressed us one morning. He made it clear that anyone who didn't eat breakfast before morning training would be off the team.

Woman have allowed and participated in being reduced to their repro organs during demonstrations, when in fact their entire physiology is different. Unless female scientists represent half the population that research will not be done. Very few talk about that while women do better in STem initially, they leave later on. But I did not see a single sign during those demos representing half the population demanding that half the specialist physicians or scientists should be female. They need to be.

When I correct or mention scientists/science there is no interest (that's fine) but do self proclaimed feminist even know who Ilaria Capua (and what was done to her) is? Are the incredible accomplishments of women celebrated by women? Promoted?

IRL a woman asked me to explain psychopaths and sociopaths to her. Then she asked if it was mostly men. According to the irrefutable statistics, yes, I replied. Then why do women do it? Her question made me think. Why indeed? Is it socialization that turns some women into mean girls rather than wing men for eachother the way males do?

Of course I've encountered it in blogs as well, it's disappointing. Conversations that harp on about the misogyny of all men, tearing the normal ones down as well. Going back to precisely what we should be moving away from.

I've seen sudden criticism of Einstein for a few years. I even corrected a comment about facts (despite his century, he promoted women and was a humanist). I ended up with pseudofeminist backlash, from someone who didn't know what she was talking about. Apparently, Maria Popova noticed the same online and she posted this today:

https://www.themarginalian.org/2026/02/28/einstein-curie-letter/

"Don't heed the haters: Albert Einsteins wonderful letter of support to Marie Curie in the midst of Scandal".

I'm in good company.

Someone else who was an exceptional husband, father and genius was Darwin. (who among many other things custombuilt a stair slide so he could hear his children laugh while working) The preeminent Darwin scholar is a female Harvard historian Janet Browne.

Food for thought.

Inhumanity

 

Something that had to do with my father recently came up and needed to be dealt with. I will have to be vague. I dreaded the call to a particular department, but in the interim there have been changes in the law and I wanted to ensure that they were implemented.

So. I initially called for general information and based on that I was expecting to be transferred to a different department. As is now routine, it started with a service center who insisted on answering my questions. Incorrectly. The rep refused to transfer me until I politely told her that she lacked the training. She transferred me.

The last time I had spoken to this department I was anguished. In despair and anticipatory grief because there was still the possibility of preventing my father's needless suffering, abuse and theft. I had groveled, played nice accepted anything they told me because it was inconceivable that people who are not dysfunctional psychopaths would willingly harm another human being, when they are paid to prevent harm.

Ms. Blank picked up. I asked questions, she wanted to know unrelated details. I don't have to answer those I told her. You're right she said she was evasive started to misinform me so I put her on speaker and had my tea.

I was numb. Emotionally it didn't matter anymore. My father was gone. I didn't have to argue to convince her because I knew that she was trained to lie. This is one of the individuals that had given me the wrong information in the past and was doing it again. 

I asked for her team leader who was away and why did I need to speak to him? Been here done that. Same script. When she rambled on my mind wandered. How does this happen to a person? How do they become inhuman? Her decision in the past had destroyed a human life.

I don't know the answer. But when customer service robots replace her I doubt I'll notice a difference.

Specialty stores. Buttons and brushes.

 

As children we explore the world through our senses. Then we stop in part because all of the "do not touch" signs are eventually obeyed.

When I was in Europe I usually wander around beyond the quaint old towns to discover some unique stores. Simply to touch and look. These specialty stores are often family owned and have been around for over a hundred years.

They now have a name: Slow retail stores.

One of the stores that I entered like a fish out of water was a button store. They also sold other sewing related supplies, but the wall of buttons was something to behold. Buttons of every imaginable color. Some out of very intricate and ornate medal. Plastic, mother of pearl. Whatever else buttons are made of. When the salesperson approached me I felt like an imposter. Does one even say "just looking" in a button store? 

Another store I came across was a brush store. An entire store! Just brushes. Many in shapes that I could not even begin to discern the purpose of. Bristles ranging from badger hair to ostrich feathers. Artists brushes made of Sable hair can be quite expensive, but spending 200 on a shaving brush or 130 for a dustbin set seemed excessive. Does a grandchild really want to inherit a broom? To be fair most brushes were handmade with wooden handles. Still.

It's not a luxury store per se and it's nice that these stores somehow attract enough customers to continue.

It was neat though and the craftsmanship dating back to another time was obvious.

Any unique stores you've come across?

Would you like a little dementia to go with that?

 I am too angry to write a proper post but wanted to share this in the meantime. 

There have been a few studies of this kind in the last couple of years, but they are still preliminary. That cov causes serious long term damage is no surprise. That many diseases will be blamed on viruses because we now have the ability to make a lucrative vaccine also likely.

Getting rid of seniors...well....

but here's some food for thought. If AI replaces highly skilled humans, because theyre now a little stupid, eventually buying power goes down as does the wealth of the wealthy. 

Anyway here's the article:

https://www.bloomberg.com/news/features/2026-02-25/how-long-do-covid-s-effects-last-brain-issues-are-still-being-found?